The First Elevate Like a Boss Retreat

It was a magic, life-changing weekend for all 12 women who attended. Here are a few reminders I walked away from this weekend with:

1. LET IT OUT. To get to the good stuff, you have to get the crap out. First in a notebook, then with a friend, then maybe, if you’re lucky enough, with your tribe. Putting it out there takes it off of YOU. And until then, you can’t strategize or move forward. So you MUST get it out somehow before figuring out the rest. Even if it means ugly crying.

2. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. None of this will matter if you're not filling your own cup. Whether that is processing and meditating, taking a nap, writing, walking or reading. We need to stay grounded though the twists and turns that life brings. It’s the only way to survive. Do something to make you feel like YOU.

3. BREATHE. When you’re overwhelmed, nervous, excited. It's a simple reminder of something we do without thinking but will bring you to an intentional state. It will keep you in the present and help you take next steps.

4. AGE DOESN’T MATTER. We had women of all ages, and what I realized while sitting in our group #sobfest (extremely therapeutic time where we all introduced ourselves on a deep level, what we’ve been through and what we wanted to get out of the weekend) is that everyone has a story. No matter how many years we’ve been on this earth. And being younger or older isn’t an advantage, just a number in our bios.

5. SHARE YOUR STORY. When you share your story vulnerably, you’re going to help others. They might have a similar story, and the feeling of not feeling alone is pretty powerful. Sharing is scary, but when you do, you feel better and you help others feel better. It’s just what happens. It’s worth it.


4 Life Lessons I learned on the Road

Austin to Boston and back -- the roundabout way. 5,500+ miles. We were on the road for 6 weeks and some of my best ideas came driving 70MPH with nothing around but corn fields and a gorgeous sunset. I started taking some notes at the stops we made and have accumulated the list of things I've learned that can be applied to life.

1. Stay in your lane. Even when others are going faster or slower than you, and even if they're picking their nose. What matters is that you stay true to your path that you're going and avoid distractions and comparisons. 

2. Ask for help. When we got to new cities, we (mostly Tom...) weren't afraid to ask locals where the best pizza place or neighborhood bar is. Looking up top things to do in any city online will get you to all the tourist traps. And generally speaking, we can't get very far without asking for help.

3. There are nice people everywhere. From Maine to Colorado and the boonies of New Mexico, we found the kindest people. A lot of the time it was because we sparked conversation with the Uber driver or waitress. Don't be afraid to start a conversation with someone you don't know -- you don't know their story and chances are, it's pretty interesting. 

4. You will always get to your destination if you keep going. The days we were driving 8+ hours seemed so daunting in the morning looking at the ETA. But guess what happened every single time? We made it. Because we kept going. The same thing applies to a goal you have -- the only way you won't accomplish it is if you stop trying.